I was the last girl to get picked on any sporting team most likely because of the stereotypical assumption that as a larger framed child I could not compete with those who were thinner. I was the last one asked out to the dance. I was the last one to have a boyfriend. I was the last one to get called by a boy. I was the last one to get someone to be my date/escort at prom. I was the last one to get called to do anything. I was never really part of the “cool” clique. I was last at everything. My self-esteem was at an all-time low in Junior High School. I will openly admit that I tried committing suicide many times. I didn’t die because I never drank enough pills. I secluded myself because I always felt that I was not good enough. I cut myself. I wrote mean things about myself in my diary. I didn’t have many friends that I wanted to be around because for me, I was not good enough to be seen. I wanted to die. I thought death would be the best outcome for me because for me at that time, no one really cared enough to want me. I never felt wanted and needed when it counted the most. I never felt connected to my circle of friends. Deep down I always felt something missing.
After growing out of that phase and going through life, I began the journey of connection, love and joy. Through my womanhood, exes, dating and supportive circle I was able to create the life I wanted. I began meeting people who accepted me for me. I met people who loved the idea of being around me. I believed I matter. During my undergraduate years I began to search for clubs and ways to connect with the world. Then I stumbled upon a flyer that said that there was an opportunity to be part of a siblinghood of people who stood for a greater good of the world. I searched their website immediately after the flyer and saw people on their site just like me. I saw differently cultures, shapes, ages, genders and smiles that warmed my heart. I knew that I had to take the initiative and join Theta Delta Sigma Society.
My interview process in 2009 was so wonderful. I laughed with two awesome gentlemen for about an hour and a half. We talked about life, humanity and where I saw myself down the road in life. I said that I wanted to start a non-profit organization that raised the self-esteem of women and young girls like me. I said that I wanted to be a powerful person who powerfully and lovingly influenced others. There was such joy and passion in my eyes. I remember that day like it was yesterday. After the summer of 2009, I was known as Sister Supernova, an explosion of a star and the largest explosion that takes place in space.
Throughout the years, I became the Vice President of Programming leading to partnerships with the Boys & Girls Club of Hempstead, New York. I led weekly community chapter initiatives with fresh, fun programming that allowed us to inspire the local youth. We even facilitated a carnival day with games, prizes and fun! There was a young child that gave me one of his prizes. He said, Miss Dee this is for you because I don’t have anything to give you and you are always so nice to me. That was one of the highlights of my career. Right then I knew that I was in the right place. I was in a place of giving and supporting communities across the world.
I was later elected President with a dynamic team of young women who supported our goals each day. I learned more about myself, my leadership skills and making mistakes. I will always cherish that time with those beautiful group of women. Wherever you in the world ladies know that I love you deeply no matter what for all you taught me. You ladies are amazing!
During our restructuring period I became the National Vice President of Finance. I was honored and thrilled to be in service and stand for change. Throughout my tenure we experienced financial growth and security. I formed new relationships in the community that recently led to lower expenditures. In addition, I have stood firm in my vision to support the organization’s mission which has led to an exciting time to be in Theta Delta Sigma.
This weekend, we had our annual Convention. It is a weekend of love, joy, fun and siblinghood. I was eager, anxious and excited to meet new members of the organization and see old friendly faces. It was amazing. At the end of our convention we hold an awards ceremony to highlight our outstanding members. This year was different for me.
As the awards are being given out, I am happy and of course cheering my fellow siblings on. Then as I am writing something down on paper I hear, “volunteer of the year goes to Sister Supernova.” At that time, I looked around and shouted “that’s me, that’s my name!” I have never had a more proud moment in my history as part of Theta Delta Sigma.
This year, I am the recipient of the Volunteer of the Year Award by the transcendent siblings of Theta Delta Sigma Society Inc. I am so honored to have been bestowed this award. I want to thank Founder Jamel Catoe and my brother Nigel Moya for seeing the power in me back in 2009 that exists in me today. I also would like to thank Ismael Valentin and Helen White, my New York aces. I would like to extend gratitude to the founders for their vision that has led to 15 years of love, success and personal development. Lastly, I would like to say to any and all members of the society, the power is within us to heal the wounds of society. What we do and what we say is a direct reflection of how we show up in our society. Be the change you wish to see in the world as our beautiful Sister Cecilia Mejia often says. It is our time to shine. It is our time to create a win/win. We have all the power inside of us. Let’s be love and make magic happen. Thank you T.D.S. for acknowledging my hard work. You allowed me a place to raise from the ashes and live my dreams. I love you more than you ever know for giving me life and light.
With love and in siblinghood,
Dailisha Eve Rodriguez